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When Goals Get Good: 2016 in Review Part Quatre

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The 200+ stairs I walked up (and down) at the St. Augustine Lighthouse.

My goals for 2016 were outrageous. I wanted to do some huge things this year. You would think with the challenges of the second part of this year I would have failed miserably at achieving anything. However, because God knows best, some of my greatest fails opened the doors to make the achievement of many of these goals possible and probable. I didn’t achieve them all, but I knew I wouldn’t going into it. They were BIG goals. But what I was able to achieve? Amazing!

So, what did I say I was going to do this year? How did I do?

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  1. Seek God. The overall goal this year is to seek God with my whole heart. The ways in which I plan to do this are to study the bible more, pray more, and integrate other spiritual disciplines into my life. To this end, I will study the bible each day, pray each day, and meditate each day. I want to attend Sunday school and bible study each week and fast at least once this year. Performance: Modest. I didn’t do as well as I’d hoped to, but I did study the bible, pray and meditate on the word more this year than in times past. I made it to Sunday school more consistently, but *late boots* and still not as often as I should have. I made most bible studies, even going to other congregations when out and about. I did not fast intentionally this year (although I did go whole days where I forgot to eat. I know, that doesn’t count. Sigh).
  2. Seek to make God known. The goal of the books that I write and things that I sell is to promote the cause of Christ. It’s hard for me to market or get my work in front of other women, but I want to reach more women and get them excited about being serious about God in whatever season they are in. I will speak at least three (3) times in 2016. I will sell 500 copies of my new book, The Season for Getting Serious. I will sell another 100 copies of Altered before the Altar. Performance: I did FAR better than I ever would have thought on this goal. I did speak three times: I spoke on Single, Spiritual and Satisfied and on Writing a Book at our ladies day in July and I spoke on Writing & Publishing at a workshop day as part of my dad’s conference in October. I got VERY close to selling another 100 copies of Altered before the Altar. Ladies are still buying this book over two years after publishing it! I still get Facebook posts, comments, and messages as well as emails and people stopping me at different events telling me how Altered before the Altar has changed their perspective and improved their relationship with God. To God be the glory! I absolutely haven’t sold 500 copies of Season. I didn’t publish it until month 7 of this year. In five months, I’ve sold close to sixty copies, and momentum is gaining. I’m expecting this number to grow as more women read and recommend this one.
  3. Seek to Serve Others. I want to get back into serving others well.  I will: participate in the benevolence Ministry at least three (3) times this year, go door knocking at least once (1x) this year, and complete at least two (2) Passion Projects. Performance: Listen. When I looked at this, I got sad because I didn’t think I’d done any of this. But then I remembered: I did go door knocking–I went to spread the word about our gospel meeting. I did complete two passion projects–I helped plan this year’s ladies day, and I hosted a young adult fellowship at my house. I did not go out with the benevolence ministry this year, though. Something to work on next year, Lord willing.
  4. Seek to Soar. I will get a publishing contract for my inspirational fiction. I will get a contract for my third Christian Living/Non-fiction book. I will turn The Season for Getting Serious into a site that encourages women to get serious about pursuing a Christ centered life no matter what season of life they are in. Performance: FAIL. Epic fail. All around, knock down drag out fail. I didn’t submit any fiction this year. None. I didn’t write a book proposal. I neglected this blog SO HARD. But did I fail in my goal to seek to soar? No way! I traveled on my own. I wrote amazing journals. I attended amazing events. I showcased talents other than writing. I’ve worked on three projects which will change lives (hopefully in 2017 and beyond). I soared, y’all. Not in the way I thought I would, but I did it. I soared.

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Want to know something truly amazing? The unintentional goals I met this year. I wrote a list in 2015 based off an exercise in Lara Casey’s Make It Happen of things I was afraid of and why I was afraid of them. I said I was afraid of teaching, writing another book, making a decision about my relationship, moving, pursuing my passion full-time, and speaking for various reasons. This year, I taught, wrote another book, made a decision about my relationship, pursued my passion full-time, and spoke! The very things I was afraid to do, God allowed me to do them, and do them well. I love God’s timing. I love how He works to rid me of a spirit of fear. Some of my fears were for nothing and things turned out way better than I expected; other times, the thing I was afraid would happen happened. Either way, I’m still here and all the better for it. God is good all the time, y’all. Goals get good when God gets glory.

Did you achieve your goals in 2016? Why or Why not? How will the outcome of your 2016 goals affect your goal setting process for 2017?

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Getting Serious About: Publishing a Book

DSCF0270When I was in the fifth grade we had to write an essay about what we wanted to be when we grew up. One of my best friends at the time, Tiffani, and I decided that we wanted to be therapists. But I also wanted to write. I ended up writing in that essay that I wanted to be a relationship therapist and write books about relationships. Not long after sixth grade started, I moved away and didn’t reconnect with Tiffani again until we found one another through Facebook somehow nearly two decades later. Now Tiffani is a nurse and I work as an administrative assistant in the legal department of a company. Yet the desire to talk about relationships, the desire to write, has never gone away.

Many of you know all about how I started doing interviews with married couples and posting them on my blog. You may also know that I spoke to the single women at my church during the Marriage and Family workshop about dating and purity. You may even know that I decided to write a book and have been working on it off and on for about four years. What you may not know is that the book I dabbled in for so long now has a title, a cover, beta readers, and a tentative release date.

One of the main reasons I started The Season for Getting Serious was so that I could encourage other women to get serious about their walk with the Lord. I’ve had a couple opportunities to do “Getting Serious” talks to help do just that. I’ve hosted college prep workshops, spoke at an empowerment workshop and an authentic self workshop, and taught ladies’ bible classes about topics that very much relate to helping women get serious about who they are in Christ and what He has called them to do. Yet I hadn’t stepped up and done the one thing I knew that God had called me, Erica D. Hearns, to do: write.

Oh, I wrote blogs, but no books had been written by my hand. I was dissatisfied with the books I read geared toward single women and began writing what I felt God wanted me to say to them in drips and drabs, but I wasn’t really committed to publishing it.  I wasn’t sure it was God that was leading me to want to publish a book. Maybe it was my own selfish desire.

In 2012, the guest speaker at the ladies day, Sister Felicia Carruthers, did an activity where she had us think back to when we were kids and the things we liked to do. Somewhere in the things we always did as a kid we might find our purpose. That was a simple exercise for me. I’d always written. I’d written Spiritual Adventure articles for the local congregation when I was in college. I wrote a poem for a coffee shop the Christian Student Center hosted. I didn’t minister to people by singing or going to medical school to save lives; I used my writing to promote the things of God. That ladies’ day was the day that I realized I needed to get serious about seeking publication.

Through many false starts, distractions, frustrations and tests, I kept limping forward. I gave my book to a couple of beta readers about two weeks ago. I commissioned a cover and received the finalized version yesterday. I’m amazed at how God has brought me to this point, just a couple steps away from publishing my first book. Somewhere along the way, I started to take this journey seriously. I wrote the difficult passages. I’ve put myself out there for feedback. I was able to critique my cover and propose the changes I wanted without compromising what I wanted or insulting the designer (I hope). I am making sure that my genuine concern and compassion are evident to the reader as much as the urgency and call to obedience and repentance. I’ve committed myself to publishing the book that God gave me to publish.

Sometimes, in the “busyness” of everyday life, the still quiet voice that nudges us towards doing what God would have us to do is drowned out. The godly goals and desires we have can get washed away in a sea of stress and worry. But what I try to remind myself is that someone is looking for the thing that I am procrastinating about doing. Someone needs to read this book. Someone needs to read the next one.  As Mordecai tells Esther, if I don’t do it, God will raise up someone else to do it; but what if I was placed here and given this talent for such a time as this?

So, anyway. I have a book coming out soon. I’ll release the title, cover, and so forth as the release date approaches. I’m still working out some of the kinks and getting things in order. But it’s more real than ever now.

XOXO,

Erica

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Morning Routines for Dummies

I have an issue with creating a morning routine that meets all of the criteria I have for starting the day off right; there are too many things to do and too little time. Given my particular leanings, morning is the best time for me to accomplish several tasks, most of which are too time consuming to do all of them in the morning. This doesn’t even take into account a morning hygiene routine, which we’ll come back to later. These are the things I would like to do in the morning:

  • Bible study/prayer/worship
  • write
  • edits/revisions
  • critique chapters for my critique partners
  • finish reading books to review
  • write reviews
  • Wrangle with writing synopses and query letters.
  • CLEAN
  • do laundry
  • exercise
  • use my crockpot to start dinner.
  • shower, brush my teeth, wash my face, fix my hair
  • fix or go get breakfast.
  • catch up on social media.
  • post to social media.
  • write blog posts.
  • work on improvements to my websites.
  • Look for cool things to bring to my blogs and sites.
  • Try to figure out how the heck to build my brand.
  • catch up on Netflix
  • light scented candle, put on classical music, and just exist for a few minutes
  • specialty beauty things–eyebrows, home mani/pedis, shaving my legs, facial masks, washing drying and styling my hair, any beauty treatment that is less frequent than daily.
  • Wake up my brain with word scramble.

I have two hours in the morning to get everything done except getting showered and dressed, which I leave about half an hour to forty-five minutes for (I’m not a fussy girl, apparently). I’m sure you can imagine how getting into any of the above tasks can bleed over into my getting dressed time, especially if I’m in a groove. There’s just not enough morning in my days.

I know you’re probably thinking I could shove some of these things into the evening, and I always have plans to accomplish so much when I get home. But when I get home, I am exhausted both from the early start and the hard day at work. Depending on the time of the month, I am drowning in invoices and reports. The last thing I want to do is come home and take laundry to the laundry center (it might be different if there was a washer and dryer in the apartment) or wash a sink full of dishes. I have much more energy in the morning.

So how does one solve this dilemma? If I could spend a few days just cleaning everything in sight and catching up on all of the things I need to do, I could do one or two things each morning going forward. At the moment, however, there’s just an overwhelming amount of things to do. I tried doing one cleaning thing, one writing thing, and bible study each day, but the area would be during again before I had another area finished, and the critiques would be due and it’d be time to swap more chapters, so I had to drop everything and do that, then I needed to… I can’t seem to get any traction.

The short version of this post: I am incapable of doing all the things I am better at tackling in the morning in the two and a half hours I have before work and I need suggestions on how to start making inroads into it. Seriously. I really want to get serious about this morning routine, but right now I am all over the place. Help!!

XOXO,

Erica

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Wrapping Up Month 5

Five days into the new month and I feel as if I’ve already accomplished more than last month. I say feel because I actually haven’t. In May, I spoke at the Authentic Self seminar, a major milestone. I set up my email, mailing list, and Facebook page for the site. I also posted my first two reviews for Net Galley books and bought the tickets to go home for my high school renion and family get together. I’ve done more in the month of May than I thought.

Originally, I was going to make my May word of the month “restart” because I was focusing on having to start the site over and re-doing the branding for the site. However, I know that doesn’t exactly fit all that I’ve done for the month of May. Since the goal of the year is to savor, I want to encapsulate all I’ve done while putting the most positive spin on it possible. As I’ve written out the month’s happenings one word jumped out at me: planting.

In the midst of the daily grind, it can be hard to recognize how much further along you are, especially when you’re obsessing over the fact you aren’t where you want to be yet. In the past month, I’ve done several things for which I will reap the benefits in the future. I have been planting. The evidence of the planting isn’t manifested yet. Work is going on underground. I need to be watering and perhaps weeding.

I’ve planted the seed of speaking engagements with the authentic self seminar. I was asked to participate in another program. I was asked back again. I did better than I thought I would speaking before an audience, even with all of the  technical mishaps at the beginning of the program.

I planted the seed of being a reviewer. I was rejected for a slew of books early in the month and immediately felt discouraged. However, I decided to go back on the site and request everything that caught my eye. I was approved for nearly all of the new requests. I’m developing my review criteria and I’ve posted two reviews already.

I’ve planted the seed of this site. I’ve managed to get the social media for the site set up and redefine the vision that I wanted for this space so that it’s more me. I may not have put all of my ideas into action in May, but I stopped to clarify where I was going. Here’s to hoping that the seeds that were  planted were planted in good soil and I will reap a harvest later on in life.

Sowing what I want to reap,

Erica

P.S. I will be going to my class reunion and visiting family the rest of this week. I will update as often as I can with pictures and impressions. It’s weird to go back to a place where I spent so much time after being away for so much time. It will be interesting to see what people are doing in life now, and I can’t wait to spend some time with all of my family again.

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False Starts…

I think I spoke too soon, as per usual.

After looking through the editor’s work and seeing some of the comments about the editing of the book I knew she worked on, I grabbed a copy for myself. Once I’d read some of the book, I acknowledged that some obvious grammatical errors and typos were distracting me from the content of the book. I knew that I didn’t want that to happen with my book. As a reader, I know how a bad editing job can make an otherwise wonderful book suck, for lack of a better word. I’d rather my story tanked on its material rather than its editing.

Even though I had to go back to the drawing board on editing, I did come up with a better solution for me. I realized I know a guy. The guy who runs the singles’ ministry is a college English teacher (I realize teacher isn’t the word; I believe he’s an adjunct professor? Semantics). Not only does he have a proven background in English, he leads a singles’ ministry, which means he  has extensive knowledge of the subject matter. He can copy edit and edit for content, and he would be one of few people I would trust to edit the content. I also found an advance reader, someone who is quoted quite a few times in the book herself. She’s a psychologist who attends my church and has done some pre-marital counseling for me (no, I’m not married or engaged, but I’ve had pre-marital counseling–twice. That’s another story for another day, and not half as interesting as it sounds). So the people are in place, but is the book ready?

The short answer is no. I got hung up on the writing of the chapter I didn’t want to write (somehow, I am not surprised by this). I had a goal to be done with the book by the end of March, but things picked up with the website (which is coming along well), I got invited to speak at my aunt’s Authentic Self seminar (which is in May, but I started working on right away so I could preview it here), and things at work began to change. All legitimate excuses that don’t get me any closer to a finished book. But I’m back on top of it, dear readers. The book hasn’t died on the shelf yet. I am going to finish those parts I don’t want to tackle, and I’m going to wrap up the other chapters in a way that makes it all worth the wait for this book.

Even though I feel like this project is one I’m meant to write and have gained a wealth of experience and growth through the writing of it, I find myself missing my fiction projects. I want to get conclude some of those stories. I think there is a market for them. But I realize that finishing this project is not just important to me, but to all the people who can benefit from reading it. Let’s not downplay the fact that I am known to abandon ship when the writing gets tough and move  on to something else. I need to prove to myself that I can finish a work and get it out there. I have to get to the end of writing and editing and have a finished product if I’m ever going to publish. We can’t all be Donna Tart and take ten years to finish a book.

So, keep my book and my writing in your thoughts and prayers. It is moving forward. I want to make it perfect for my readers, some of which have been waiting years to read my work. Meanwhile, sate yourselves with reading a few shorter non-fiction pieces in my Untitled tab.

XOXO

Erica

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Quarter Year Crisis or Celebration?

The first quarter of this year is already over. It’s time to evaluate how well you’ve done with sticking to the resolutions/goals that you set for the year. Whether or not you started out the year gung ho and fell off, or you weren’t exactly sure at midnight on January 1st what you intended to accomplish for 2013, it’s not to late to get on track.

The first quarter of 2013 was a busy one for me. I was accomplishing goals left and right in one area of my life, while seeing little to no progress in other areas. It was truly a feast or famine quarter in each individual area of my life. If you read my word of the month recaps for January, February, and March, you know that this year I’ve already reset, developed and transitioned. Most of the goals I have reached have been those pertaining to developing my website. The goals that have fallen by the wayside have been those pertaining to my personal life and my career. I’m also a little behind schedule with the book, but that’s another story for another day.

The reason that I haven’t made any progress on some of my personal goals is that I haven’t spent much time executing any of the steps I planned to help me reach those goals. In my work life as well as my personal life, organization has gone out of the window. Just like they say in the movie 28 Days, “it works if you work it.” I haven’t been working it in those areas. I’ve worked my butt off finding things for the website and working on my presentation for the seminar, but with the loss of organization in my personal life I find myself doing whatever comes to hand and trying to straighten things up in this haphazard manner is not helping me accomplish much.

So even though I have achieved stellar growth in one area, I am lagging behind in other areas for the year. But it’s still early. I am going back to my earlier framework of organization. I am going to take some time at work to write out a schedule of my work days and recurring tasks. I am going to come home and begin a more focused approach to running my household of one. I’m going to have some more difficult discussions. It’s time for a liberal amount of INEBIGTDIA* to be poured on everything.

How was your first quarter? Are you on track to reach your goals or are you in need of refocusing? 

XOXO

Erica

*INEBIGTDIA- I’m not excited, but I’m going to do it anyway. You’re welcome.

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Wrapping Up Month 3

It’s hard to believe that yesterday was the first of the fourth month of the year. This year is a quarter over already; how did this happen? The recap for the month of March is a rollercoaster one. There have been many ups and downs this month. Things have definitely been moving right along in my world. Coming up with a word for the month has been really difficult, but Mr. Perfect gave me the best word yesterday.

The word of the month for March is: TRANSITION.

March was a month of transition in several different ways. It was the first month that I’ve seen some of my ideas for the website transition into reality. It was the month that things transitioned from the planning phase to the execution phase. I am wrapping up the writing of the book and preparing to transition to the editing phase. I transitioned from not knowing what was expected of me at work from a meeting with higher ups to my manager being really please with my progress–all without figuring out what the issue was in the first place. Lastly, but by no means least, Mr. Perfect’s grandmother transitioned from this time side of life to the hereafter and his family came together to say goodbye to her. There have been a lot of transitions in the past month.

Early in the month, I contacted a graphic designer to begin working on the logo and header for my website. I was made aware of his work through a fortuitous tweet from a blogger I follow whose header I really like. She posted a blog highlighting the graphic designer who had designed the header as well as the logo for her personal brand. I immediately checked out his twitter and Facebook page before contacting him on twitter. After some online research, I sent him an email with my mission statement, vision, and website information, along with a general idea of what I wanted for the logo/header. He emailed me back that he had been to the site and loved the concept and goal behind it. He sent me his price list and clarifications, and we had a phone conference that sealed the deal. A few days later, he sent me his first drafts and I sent him the deposit. I engaged a graphic designer! *With help from Tech Support, of course.*

I also signed up for a service to review advanced copies of a book and began reading the first title. I love it so far and have taken extensive notes for a review. The books will be reviewed on the site. I am going from reading books in my bubble and spouting opinions every now and then here and there to reading and writing formal reviews. It’s like writing book reports in elementary school, but so much better. I can’t wait to share the first review.

One thing I haven’t shared yet is that I have decided on a host for my website after some careful searching and lessons in web speak from Tech Support. The host will offer me the features I want to use on the site and I can lock in hosting and other features for three years at a good price. I don’t know how this transition will effect the site’s availability yet, but I will appreciate your patience as we begin transitioning things this upcoming week, hopefully.

One goal for the month I wasn’t able to meet was getting the book ready for my selected editors to read. I haven’t been able to finish the writing of the book, as we were dealing with the passing of Tech Support’s grandmother and I was dealing with some changes at work. The graphic designer I engaged was dealing with a sudden death in the family as well. It has been a month of people departing this life for many that we know and love, and after a very productive two weeks in the middle of the month, I wasn’t able to finish everything I wanted to. I think that I can have the first chapter done and hand it over tomorrow or Sunday. That way, he can tell me what his initial thoughts and findings are and see if he wants to finish it. This person teaches English at one of the local colleges and will be great for editing for grammar, punctuation, and general proofreading. I will get some instruction on the content and concepts from my minister. I may have to do it one chapter at a time, but it will get done. I want the book to be ready by the seminar in May.

That was the other thing I did in March, agree to be a part of my aunt’s Authentic Self seminar, speaking on the subject “Getting Serious About Who You Are in Christ: Go Godly Early.” I spoke with the leadership at church and the ladies’ bible class instructor and I was able to secure presentation of a trial run at my church on the second Sunday of April as well. I am excited to be able to present this lesson and have been busily preparing material to present on both occasions. I still have some work to do on the presentation and what I will need, but I have a topic outline and have pulled several scriptures and illustrations. I will be transitioning some ideas from the page to the stage, so to speak. I’m praying that this will be an endeavor that brings glory to God and encouragement to all the women who hear it.

I will present the graphic designer and name the web hosting service I am using when both are completed. I will also be releasing the new and improved title of the book. April promises to be a month filled with new experiences, hard work, and further development personally, spiritually, and as a writer and speaker.

How was your March? Did you reach your goals? Did things go as planned, or were your plans derailed?

XOXO,

Erica aka 2blu2btru

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Now Entering Phase One…

First of all, the happiest of birthdays to the most awesome mom ever. Happy birthday, mommy!

Now back to the lecture at hand…

I am now entering phase one of all of the things I can’t tell you about. However, I can tell you a few things I’ve accomplished. The first thing I’ve accomplished is finally getting a laptop to aid in to publishing and blogging domination. Yes, for the past four years of blogging, I’ve been writing from a desktop, tied down to one location. Now I am able to sit cross-legged on my futon watching The Mentalist Season 1 on DVD while updating the blog or working on the book. Yay for a new laptop!

I have also opened up an account of Net Galley and am going to be reviewing new and advance copies of books going forward. I can’t tell you how excited this makes me. I hope to launch a book club in the future, so having the chance to see what books are coming out and know what books may suit my book club will be a great addition to my blogging. Besides, we all know how much I love to give my opinion.

The biggest thing that I can share is that I have booked my first speaking engagement that is in line with my website/book. I will be speaking to a small group of women at a seminar called Authentic Self on May 18th on the topic “Getting Serious About Who You Are in Christ: Go Godly Early.” I am supposed to speak for an hour to an hour and a half. I have been kicking around some ideas to address areas that Christian women in their 20s and 30s struggle with in their walk with Christ. If anyone has any ideas of areas I should address, please feel free to leave them in the comments section.

There are a couple of other things in process that I can’t talk about yet, but they are really close to completion. I’m working really hard on the website and book to bring you all a more dynamic, community oriented experience. I’m trying to come up with things for the site that I thinks readers will appreciate, and I would love your feedback on what you would like to see as a reader of one of my blogs.

I’m feeling a little sick and very tired today, so I’m doing the meds and bed thing (one time for being able to type this in bed!). If anyone wants to come take care of me, I am accepting applications.

XOXO

Erica

 

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Free as a Bird, Wild as the Wind: Freestyle Friday

It’s been so long since I’ve done one of these, I almost don’t know what to do! Most of my time lately hasn’t exactly been “free,” so I haven’t been writing as much, but I’ve wanted to write many times. Work has picked up for me, I’ve been doing pre-marital counseling once a week, I’ve applied to school, and I’ve been writing or reading source material every spare moment I have. My days have been filled from my daily walk/jog until I fall asleep on the couch watching Investigation Discovery. Here’s what’s new and not so exciting with me:

  • My five year anniversary was this Wednesday. We didn’t have time to do anything to celebrate Wednesday, as we both went straight from work to church and didn’t leave there until after nine thirty, but hopefully we can do something nice this weekend. Of course, we are going to New Orleans next weekend, which is a great way to celebrate!
  • My car will be paid off by Monday or Tuesday!! I am so excited at the prospect of not having to send that payment in every month. I am praying that the car will still keep going and need as little work as possible for a year or two so I can at least get to taste a little bit of savings. The next debt up for repayment will be the student loans (eeek!)
  • I’ve been preoccupied with writing what will be the seminal chapter of my book, the Adam & Eve chapter. This chapter will introduce nearly every topic that will be developed later. Needless to say, trying to get it perfect has consumed a lot of my writing time (hence why I’ve been so silent here). I’ve decided to break the book up into three sections: Preparation, Purpose, and Purity. I’ve done extensive work in preparation and some writing in purity, but I haven’t done as much work on the Purpose section. I say all of this to say that the writing is going well. I’m not going to end up with the book I thought I would, but this one is going to be better; promise.
  • I’ve been reading Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship by Josh Harris, and it is GOOD! By the same author who wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, this book focuses on courtship and how to move from friends to married couple. So far I like the stories used as practical examples (except that ill advised reimagining of Adam & Eve at the beginning) and the principles given. It’s WAY different than my book, but it’s a good read. 😀
  • I’ve been a little obsessed with Miguel’s “Adorn” and “Lovin’ Me” from the R&B Divas album! I listened to a CD with those two songs on it on repeat for a couple weeks;
  • however, it was supplanted by a sermon Bro. Drummer preached, “Following the Footsteps of Faith,” that everyone needs to hear. I mean, this sermon is awesome. One of my favorite concepts from this sermon is that you cannot expect the blessings of God if you are not where He told you to go. Brother Drummer used the following illustration: if someone tells you to meet them in Tampa and they will pay all of your bills for a year, you wouldn’t pull over at a rest stop in St. Petersburg and wait for them. You wouldn’t say “St. Pete is close enough. If he could pay my bills if I come to Tampa, why can’t he do it in St. Pete?” It’s amazing what principles we understand in secular things that we can’t seem to translate to spiritual terms. Get out of Harran!
  • Speaking of Brother Drummer, our counseling has come to the point of talking about the different relationships in marriage. We’ve talked about the covenant and contractual aspects; now it’s time to talk about the ceremonial and conjugal aspects (or as like to say as our code word “conjugating verbs”). According to Bro. D., we are getting to the interesting or fun stuff; I’ll let you know how that goes in a personal blog post.
  • I’ve got a list a mile long of things I want for Christmas, etc. I have picked out everyone else’s gifts, but I am indecisive about what I REALLY want. I want a new iPod (mine broke a while ago), a laptop (which I should have had long ago; I only own a desktop), a long list of songs and books I want to buy, a new bed, some spin shoes, a membership to the spin/yoga studio that just opened up, etc. Even though I feel like paying off my car is the best Christmas gift I could receive (thanks Mom! You’re the best!), I want to get myself something that moves me toward publishing my own website, developing my author platform, and getting some books published. But then, I really want to cut down my list of music related goodness to bless myself with. Decisions, Decisions.
  • I’m bringing back “We’re Just Links” to promote other blogs, so if you know of any great blogs, please tell me about them and leave a link.

But enough about me, loves, what are you doing/thinking/ this week? Have you got Christmas all squared away? Have you kept any resolutions you’re especially proud of? Do you want to get me iTunes gift cards and a domain name for Christmas? Feel free to leave some love in the comments section!

XOXO

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Performance Review

On Tuesday, I had my mid-year performance review. This is the performance review that does not involve a pay review, just an opportunity to evaluate your performance and say whether or not you are on target with performance goals. This reminded me so much of Mr. Perfect’s State of Our Union discussions that I almost laughed after I left the review.

It’s essential that we all have the opportunity to review our performance in various areas of our lives, including our relationships. I look back over the years of my relationship and see so much growth and change in myself as a person. Definitely being in a relationship has caused me to notice and improve aspects of self that I wouldn’t have recognized needed improving without someone to point them out. Any type of relationship you have should push you to be better.

Mr. P and I haven’t really done a state of our union in a while. It’s about time for another one. If you need some help conducting one, stay tuned! I’ll share some tips/advice on preparing for and conducting one soon!

XOXO
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