1The plans of the mind and orderly thinking belong to man, but from the Lord comes the [wise] answer of the tongue.
2 All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirits (the thoughts and intents of the heart).
3 Roll your works upon the Lord [commit and trust them wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and] so shall your plans be established and succeed. Prov. 16:1-3, Amplified Version
I’ve had this website on my heart for a long time. I’ve wanted to create my own little piece of the internet where I could bring together young Christian women, or women of any age trying to be serious about following Christ and living their best life. I went through many concepts and titles for how this would work and what I wanted to do with it. Most of the ideas revolved around the book that I was working on, a book about preparation, purity and patience to meet and marry a mate God’s way. This seems like a narrow idea, but when you consider how big of an impact a spouse has on your life, and how great of an opportunity courtship is to exemplify your faith and trust God, it can be applied to so many areas of life. In working on this book, I’ve moved away from the obvious of what to look for in a mate and began delving deeper into growing yourself into a good Christian woman with a fulfilling relationship with her first love–Christ.
As the book evolved, I focused on different aspects of the book to build a site around, each with a name:
It Takes One to Know One–because I was heavily quoting older, long married women in the book to authenticate the practical aspects of the Bible’s teachings. (this domain name was taken, which turned out to be a good thing)
Last Ladies Standing–because it seems like Christian women who actually adhere to the teachings of the Bible, especially regarding love and relationships, are a dying breed. Women who are standing on the teachings of Christ seem to be vanishing, and it’s up to us to fight to hold on to perpetuating godly standards and raising godly families (this was too similar to Last Lady Standing, a competition in the UK, I believe. The fact that it was already in use was another blessing).
Finally, I gave up on trying to force a cool idea to work for what I wanted to do. I realized something that was holding me back on progressing: my website was never going to be cool. I see websites and organizations that are supposed to be Christian that are “cool.” People are always joining. Everything they make sells well. People pick up their slogans and idolize (IDOLIZE) their creators. They are well marketed. But are they really doing the work of the Lord? Are they doing well because they are marketed and merchandized well, or because God is being glorified? I don’t know that all of them are following Christ.
Some of my favorite blogs have a brand and marketing. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t think there’s anything wrong with trademarking and making what you do easily recognizable. I have no problem with selling books, mugs, t-shirts, and etc. pertaining to your site. But my purpose in this website is not to be cool or to gain thousands of followers; my purpose is really to share what I’m learning on my journey, to create a space for true Christian women to seek support and encouragement when they feel like they’re the only one in the world trying to be serious about their faith. My desire to be big was keeping me from tending to the little I was given. You can’t be rewarded with bigger until you prove trustworthy with the small, right?
This site is coming along at the right time. I am sure what I want this to be about, who the audience is, and, most importantly, that what I want is in line with God’s will for me. This idea goes beyond this book about relationships and reaches into other projects I’ve been working on. It’s giving me the push to finally prepare those things to share with the world. Everything is lining up too perfectly for this not to be God’s perfect timing.
Why am I sharing this? Sometimes we give up on dreams when it seems as if they aren’t going to happen. It’s not always that things aren’t going to happen, however. Some things are put off because our plans are not in line with God’s will. Some ideas are a little before their time and need to be developed patiently until the appropriate time. Sometimes our plans are so set in our minds that we are crushed when it doesn’t work out how we planned, and we forget that God has the final say.
I’ve been working on a section in the book about prayer. I was drawn to James 4:1-4 when I wanted to talk about knowing what to ask for and how to ask. These verses state that there are two reasons we don’t have what we want: 1) we haven’t asked, and 2) we ask for the wrong purposes, to spend on sensual pleasures (v3). Sometimes, it’s not what we ask, but why we are asking that prevents us from receiving. We should seek to have the same mind which was in Christ Jesus, and that mind was one with God. In John’s account of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, he shares Jesus’ prayer that those that follow Him would be one, as He and the Father are one. Anything that doesn’t line up with His will doesn’t line up with ours if we are truly intent on following Him, even if we think we really want it. God’s will be done.
The things that God wants to succeed will succeed at the time He has appointed them to succeed. Proverbs 16:4 states, not only will is be established, it will succeed. I thank all of you who have come to this fledgling place and liked a post, commented, and/or followed the blog. I pray that I will be able to be used by God to encourage you, and that you will be able to be an encouragement to me. Let us reason together, shall we?
Where could you stand to align yourself better with God’s will? Have you had any endeavors succeed recently?
P.S. The title is a favorite quote of mine from The A-Team, in case you were wondering. 😀
Related articles–note: I haven’t researched these, so I can’t say I agree with everything that may be on their sites.
- Why Are Many of Us So Unprepared to Be Godly Wives? – Part 1 (peacefulwife.com)
- Why Are Many of Us So Unprepared to Be Godly Wives? – Part 2 (peacefulwife.com)
- Savory Moment: Weddings and Writing (2blu2btru.wordpress.com)–except this girl; I know her a little. She’s me 🙂