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Just Friends?

First of all, I just want to note how excited I am by all of the new commentors I’ve been having lately! I even have one new fairly regular commentor, Pennywise.  Thanks so much for your comments and keep them coming!

I read something that gave me a really great question for Monday Meditation. First of all, I want to commend this  blogger for sharing her story with all the blogoverse, and I wish her all the best in future. But onto what caught my attention. This woman started a blog while going through divorce from a man she had been with a total of nearly ten years. After several years dating and two years of marriage, he announced that he didn’t see her as his wife, but as a friend and that he wasn’t happy. As far as I’ve read in her blog, which isn’t very far, they have remained friends, even meeting for a meal or to watch a show together.

If you & your significant other broke up, could you still be friends? Is there any basis of friendship even to go back to? Would it be worth it? How would it effect you emotionally? Would you prefer a clean break? How amicable of a break up have you had? Are you still friends with any exes?

Have at it!

4 thoughts on “Just Friends?

  1. Could you still be friends? Yes, if there are kids involved. I’d treat him like a coworker if trust isshas caused the breakup.

    Clean breaks are the best.

    Emotionally? I’d be heartbroken for a minute, but it wouldn’t break me.

    Still friends with exes? None other than a distant wave if we happen to cross paths. Def. not friending you on FB!

  2. Wow, thank you so much for reading my blog!! That’s amazing…I’m so touched…and yes, we are still friends, a year and a half after we separated and since divorced. It’s something we’ve worked on, we value and I wouldn’t have it any other way. It can be done, but it takes time, and it’s definitely not for everyone. good luck.

    1. Thanks for stopping by! I found your blog from your sister’s blog and just got caught up in it. I am not divorced (I’m not even married), I haven’t so much as had a bad break up, but I can still relate to so much of what I’ve been reading in your blog. My current bf, Mr. Perfect, thinks that we would be able to be friends if we ever broke up down the road, but I am not so sure. You invest so much time in someone romantically, how do you switch that energy over to friend? Reading your blog, though, I know it could happen, if both parties were interested. Thanks for responding!

      1. Aw, that’s awesome, I didn’t realize you were one of Jess’s “blog friends” – so cool. 🙂 Glad that you actually DO have Mr. Perfect, that’s awesome!

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