Restablishing the Lines of Communication (and Special Thanks)

Fig_-_Power_of_CommunicationRTC: First I want to thank the man behind Diary of a Tired Black Man, Tim Alexander, for commenting on my little blog! The comments did shed a little light on some things about the movie I found confusing; however, I still think the movie was too unbalanced, even if you were trying to make a point. The way I see it (and I am not a filmmaker so I don’t know anything about budget and time constraints or the scope of the project),  something had to attract and keep you; she couldn’t have been all bad. Looks aside, how did you come to be married to her? Was she the same before you got married and you overlooked it or what? As an outsider, I only know so much of her/your situation, how either of you became to be the people in the relationship in the film, so I am just wondering. As a non-angry, unmarried Black woman, I would like to understand how it gets to that point. I watched the movie on Netflix’s Watch Instantly feature, so I didn’t get the opportunity to watch any of the director commentary. I will have to rent it from them and check that out. Also, I will definitely check out, and more than likely comment on, the message board. For anyone else who wants to discuss the film or follow the discussions, the link is http://www.tiredblackman.com/forums/

Now, I wrote in a previous entry that my aunt and I had a disagreement in our working relationship in which I felt that she disrespected me with a voicemail she left. I sent her the work she wanted and let her know that I was upset about said voicemail. This was Saturday. I have not gotten a response back from her about this situation, or anything. Faith and Pearl both said that she had been on their cases too, as she’s stressed about a business audit she was supposed to have (if it was still on schedule, it was supposed to be done yesterday). Maybe once all the hoopla is over, she will contact me; if not, am I responsible for opening up the lines of communication again? I mean, I did not close them. I did not express my feelings in a disrespectful way, and I DID send her the work she asked for, but she hasn’t spoken to me since, nor has anyone come to pick up the van. Ah, well.

As I said, Pink Susie has been there for a lot of the ups and downs I’ve suffered through in recent years, but she also hold grudges. She bought my dad a sweater when he was 14. He didn’t like it and told her so. She told him she would never buy him clothing ever again. My dad is over 50; he hasn’t received so much as a sock or pair of gloves from her. She means what she says. The thing is, she hasn’t said anything. This is a new record for her…nearly a week without calling me. I must admit, being free from the constant calling, the “do you have this ready?” or “did you get this email I sent you?”, the early morning wake up calls…it feels kinda nice. But I would like the occasional, “hey, just calling to see how life is going” calls. What do you think, dear readers? Who has to give in and who has to accept the apology gracefully?

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2 Comments

  1. It’s simple. The movie had a singel pourpose – to open up and create a dialouge for change. And you are talking about it right? Now, you have to go and find your own reality from the tool I gave you. And you should buy this one and not rent it, it is only $20 and you will be sharing it for years to come. You can get it at Walmart or Amazon.com Go to this link:
    http://www.amazon.com/Diary-Tired-Black-Jimmy-Jean-Louis/dp/B001L67A46

    Why are you holding my film responsible to give you so much information? I was reliving his hard past from his Diary, as he is about to move forward into a new positive relationship as closure – he can read any page from his life to reminisce on he chooses.

    Did Tyler Perry show any good or happy moments in any of his film’s – ever! NONE! Not a single one! Did that bother you too?

    Not “Diary of a Mad Black Woman”, Not Media’s Family Reunion”, Not Daddies Little Girls”, not “Why Did I Get Married”, Not “The Family that Prays” not a one of them!

    Why can’t you just look at the message that this tool in the form of a film offered up without trying to find a way to wiggle, over analyze and discount? You are way not getting the point, or willing to accept the film’s real purpose – it is to show, and get women to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for their roles in why we have issues in our relationships. I created it so women could look into the minds and hearts of a good man and is struggle – so they could finally attempt to see a few things from his point of view.

    Can you just look at it and take it’s MESSAGE as it is? The film is what it is, and was designed as a message not a movie as it says in the beginning of the film.

    Open your mind and heart to it. This is a first look at a man’s pain so women can see it directly through a man’s eyes. Just learn from it, and put what you learn to good use. This movie is balanced if you hold it next to all of the hundreds of movies that never show the good in a relationship women have had with a bad man. I just flipped it. Is that OK to do?

    I made a film – and every film is about what it is about. Mine is about one good man’s pain – not about the woman and the hows and whys that you are looking for. Women can not control everything in a relationship, and they can not control how I deliver my message in my film.

    Please just learn and grow, and stop looking for what you want, and look at what you need to see – it’s message (and I really feel you need to see it). Peace.

  2. Fabiola Lindsey

    I think your movie was unfare to black woman. Speaking 4 my self as an hatian american woman, I take very good care of my man. I being hurt so many time by black man I can’t even count, however I will not blame all black man for some1 else actions and the choices they make in life. It just not right, I’m a divorce woman with 3 beautiful girls let me add from the same man that I was mary to for 15yrs. I walk out on my marriage because my husband wasn’t a good provider after I try eveything I could to help him to better his self but he was to BZ hanging on the street with his friends. Is that all back men fault or was it that my ex-husband was just an iresponsible individual?? Ask your self that. I don’t care what race a person is as long as you love and understand each other,able to care for 1 another that’s all that matter. I’m not angry, I’m sad, disappointed that not to many black man care to go to school in order to be able to get a good job to keep they family together, they rather hang out in the club,get high. I will not blamed all black man for that, some people are smart some are not. It to bad intead of teaching other how to do things right it easier to blame a whole race for your pain. What don’t you write or do a movie on teaching the one who wants to learn the right way of how to love some without pushing them away. I’m beautiful,I’m strong, I cook, I clean..I’m a strong woman first then I’m human.

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